Video: Change Your Perspective on Why We Go Through Hard Things


Have you ever felt like you’re life was just one bad thing after another? From losing loved ones, dealing with family drama, raising children, financial issues, health issues, the fridge going out, etc? Does it feel like even if things are going good for a while you’re just waiting for the other shoe to drop? Maybe you’re going after a really big dream and it feels like you’ve got all these obstacles popping up all around you. Believe me I know first hand how all of that feels. Like the seasoned folks say: You’re either in a storm, coming out of a storm or heading into a storm.

While that’s true in one sense it can be really sucky just letting the storm be your point of reference. I love that image of flying in an airplane, the clouds can be grey but once you get to a certain height you see that the sun was there the whole time. It was simply about perspective.

Recently I have been personally going through a lot of ups and downs. Every few months it feels it’s something life changing is happening and it can be really overwhelming especially since I'm a sensitive person and things can affect me on a deep level. Sometimes it’s not even those huge moments but the daily stresses of raising a family, working a job or growing a business. Maybe it’s just the dang on news that can stress a sister out! It takes a toll on your mind your body and your spirit.

The other day I was praying and it really came to look at my struggles with a completely different perspective. That’s how I knew it was God. Because it sounded so absurd when it first came through my head.

What if God is merciful for allowing us to go through hard things?  

Every time we go through something hard we have two choices: either run to God or run away from God. When you go through the fire your character is tested. If you choose to run to God you will grow stronger in your faith, your relationship with Him, and  your inner peace. Have you ever seen a person who has been through hell but their face is shining with incredible strength and resolve? It's because they are drawing their peace from a higher source then themselves.

It’s like you see those people with amazing bodies and we want that - but we don’t want to work out and do the hard stuff to get there. That’s what it’s like with our spiritual growth.

If we never had anything go wrong we wouldn’t have to rely on our faith and it would never grow. We would never have that opportunity to go deeper with God and know him better. To know God better is the prize.

If we never had anything go wrong we wouldn’t have to rely on our faith and it would never grow. We would never have that opportunity to go deeper with God and know him better. To know God better is the prize.

What if going through hard things allows us to experience God's grace?

A new friend told me that when she was going through something hard she had a tough time seeing God so she decided to write down grace notes for herself every day so she could get a different perspective of what was happening. If you’ve ever seen the movie Miracles From Heaven its a story about a little girl who all of a sudden is diagnosed with a rare disease that stops her digestive system from working. It’s very painful and fatal. But after an accident where she falls down a tree and hits her head she is miraculously healed. This is not a spoiler because This is a true story. At the end of the story the character takes us back through the times when God’s grace showed up. That in the midst of hardship there were little miracles all along the way. From a friend coming in the middle of the night with her baby to help the family in need, from a person at the airport making a “mistake” to allow the family to travel to see their dying sister and daughter even though all of their credit cards were declined. To a stranger who worked at a restaurant taking a day off work to take the mother and daughter on a fun tour of the city, to another little girl who heard the gospel of Jesus before she died because she came into contact with the sick girl, to a whole community being affected through this miracle. You can take the perspective of looking at the storm clouds or you can focus on the rays of sunlight shining through. It’s God’s grace to us that we get to see Him work in our lives. That we get to experience miracles. Light shines brightest in the dark.

God is our merciful Father and the source of all comfort. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When they are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us (2 Corinthians 1:3-4)

Remember that your pain qualifies you for your purpose.

My pastor who loves to preach on the topic of discovering your purpose was talking about how pain qualifies us for our purpose. He mentioned a woman who was steeped in prostitution and that type of lifestyle. In the midst of it she probably didn’t feel like she had a purpose. But God delivered her and now she works to rescue other girls out of the sex industry. She found her purpose in helping others. I’m not saying that your story has to be that dramatic but you do have a story. You do have some pain. That pain qualifies you more than any degree to help others. You go through hard things in life to help others go through hard things in life.

 For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. - Ephesians 2:10


It builds you into the person that can handle bigger things. Do you want to be able to handle bigger things? Do you want to stretch further? Do you want to have your territory increased? Than I need you to understand that what you’re going through now is for your own good! 

Do you want to be that lady boss that runs things and makes moves wherever she goes? Everything you’re going through now is preparing you for that blessing. Imagine if you never worked out, you would never build muscle. You would be wimpy and wimpy people can’t lead teams, and fight for justice and make change.

And you’ve been through stuff so you are being prepared to do the things only you can do.

I’ll be really honest with you there are some days where I’m like why does it seem so hard to do the thing I want to do?  But then I realize I need to change my perspective because I actually have a lot to be grateful for in my life.

When I was really going through the worst of my postpartum depression my counselor told me to write down 5 things every day I was grateful for. The first day was awful I couldn't find anything. Then I went basic and thanked God for food, my kids, a bed, and a shirt. I realized that my spirit got lifted with these small marks of gratitude. Gratitude is so freakin powerful! I don’t understand why it works but it does. I challenge you to do that. Write 5 things down every day that you are grateful for and then when you are in the middle of some crap stop and think of 5 things you are grateful for and keep going until you feel better!

  • We go through hard things because it builds our faith
  • We go through hard things because it builds our character
  • We go through hard things so we can know God deeper
  • We go through hard things to experience His grace more fully
  • We go through hard things to build our relationship with God
  • We go through hard things to be developed into a person who can walk in their purpose
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