5 Reasons You Should Stop Comparing Yourself to Others Now


"Don't compare yourself with anyone in this world...if you do so, you are insulting yourself" - Bill Gates

Bill Gates has something there.

You might think it’s easy for him to say because he’s super rich and super famous and has contributed a ton to society.

But once he was just like you and me. A regular guy trying to find a way to do accomplish a dream inside of him.

But don’t insult yourself by comparing your beginnings to where he is right now. Or anyone else for that matter. Comparison is a sneaky bugger and it will bite you and suck the life out of you if you don’t squash it right away.

"Comparison is a sneaky bugger that will suck the life right out of you if you don't squash it right away." - Dija Henry



We all know that comparison is the thief of joy but it also is the thief of time. Time is our most precious commodity and we can’t get it back once it’s gone. Comparison eats up your time by causing you to spend time focusing on others in a negative way. Scrolling through social media sites looking at what others are doing and wishing your life was more like theirs takes up serious time! The worst thing is that you aren’t even aware of the precious minutes that are slipping by while you watch others living their lives through the limited lens of Instagram.


Sometimes we can find inspiration by looking at what others are doing but when it becomes comparison it’s a whole ‘nother game. Comparison cuases you to focus on what others are doing so much so that you start to adopt their style or strategies as your own.

The fact is that you are a different person with your own awesomeness to tap into. You can’t tap into your well of inspiration if you are constantly focused on what someone else is doing. Take the time to discover your own style, your own process and your own dreams without the influence of what others are doing or telling you to do.


Constantly comparing yourself to others can lead to very negative thoughts. Perhaps you’ve thought things like:

  • When will it be my time?
  • They don’t deserve that
  • I have more followers then them why can’t I be where they are?
  • Who do they think they are?
  • I’ve been doing this longer?
  • I suck?
  • I will never get where I want to go. I’m too far behind.
  • I’m too old
  • I’m too young
  • No one will listen to me

I could go on and on seriously. I’ve said some of these things and I’m sure I’m not alone. No one will be a positive person with a constant inner monologue of these phrases!

The things we say to ourselves lead to how we treat ourselves, how we behave and how we treat others. Becoming a negative person will only pull you further away from your goals in life.


If comparison gets out of control it can lead to envy and depression. Comparison only needs a little bit of consistency from you to cause you to start to lose gratitude for your own life and your own blessings. As lack of gratitude grows, the chances of depression are higher. It will seem impossible to see the positive aspects of life if one is constantly focused on the negative and what is lacking in their own lives.


Constantly comparing yourself to others takes of time, energy, inspiration and can lead to depression. All of these things will hinder you from achieving your own dreams in your life. We all know that achieving your goals takes focus and hard work. You can’t afford to waste your most precious commodities in this life on comparing yourself to others.

You have amazing dreams and amazing potential inside of you. You were created to do good things while you are here on this earth. Everything about you is unique down to your fingerprint! Don’t insult yourself by comparing yourself to others.

This is all nice and dandy, Dija. You’ve shown me the problem but what is the solution?

Glad you asked.

I’ve personally spent a lot of time thinking about this particular subject of comparison and I have a vendetta against it. It drives people apart and it’s the enemy of community. Community is what we need to succeed and reach our goals in this life. Community is SO IMPORTANT for self development and growth.

I've personally experienced this five symptoms of comparison in my own life. I've experienced the heartache that it can add to a person's life. But I've also experienced the freedom, clarity, and peace that comes from dealing with it and rooting it out of one's life. I really want others to experience the power that exists on the other side of comparison. But you can't get there unless you deal with comparison head on.

So what did I do? I wrote a book on it of course!

The book is called "I Dare You Not to Compare Yourself to Others."  In the book I share my personal journey with comparison as well as the lessons that I learned along the way. I share them through entertaining stories, spiritual observations and reflections. There is also room for you to reflect as well with questions to prompt your thoughts into the written word.

You can get the book on Amazon.